Although breaking up is hard to do, make-up sex sure can make it all worthwhile.Experts all over the world agree that having uninhibited sex after a quarrel is a common way for couples to resolve conflict.
I believe that make-up sex can be healthy and that residual anger can add a little spice to what’s already a great experience in and of itself. Some people argue that it’s just dysfunctional behavior. I believe one of the best sexual experiences is that angry, raw, animalistic sex after a quarrel/disagreement.
There is a very thin line between anger and sexual excitement. Pent up aggression, just like sexual frustration, must be released every so often. And after lashing out with angry words, why not jump each other?
Women tend to be a little hesitant to be touched after an argument. Some may even want to hit the poor guy, but that can be a turn on sometimes. I’ve found that there’s nothing quite like a horny, angry woman.
*ladies, if your man displays bounty killer-like tendencies, then don’t hit him*
Depending on the argument (whether it’s my fault or hers), I could take control of the sexual situation. If she’s to blame, I do her like “I’m da muthaf–kin BOSS”; you know, domineering sex. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t throw her around like a rag doll. I’m aggressive but not abusive, I do the hair pulling, ass smacking and lotsa firm gripping while I’m penetrating.
Plenty of women love aggressive sex and if your woman is one of them, then show her that you’re boss in bed and give it to her until she’s sorry… so to speak.
“Please Don’t Go” Sex
If as man you’re at fault for the quarrel or potential break up, then you’ve gotta kiss some ass, FIGURATIVELY (unless literally kissing ass is your thing)
If sex is going to happen after one of these episodes, it’s going to be the very emotional and caring kind. It has to be earth-shattering. The man has to make her feel like a trillion dollars because you’re in a vulnerable position. Massage her, kiss her whole body softly and if you’re into oral sex, make sure her eyes rollover and she speaks in languages never before heard and make sure when she’s cumming she convulses like a demon is being exorcised from her.
When you give her that sweet “baby please don’t leave me, I’m so sorry and I’ll do anything to make you happy” sex, she just might forget what you were fighting about.
Sex Is Not the solution
Using sex as the solution to fighting is like putting a band-aid on a gunshot wound — it won’t really allow the relationship to progress or heal.
If the desire is mutual, make-up sex can have a positive effect outside the bedroom. By releasing tension and passion in a sweaty, physical bout in the “romping shop” a couple can probably discuss real issues with a clear head.
After sex, couples should be able to talk to each other with clarity and a calm attitude. Who wants to talk after sex though? Usually she does, but since this is make-up sex I’ve found that it makes perfect sense to stay awake and resolve the issue in the “afterglow”.
For many couples, sex after an intense argument or temporary separation reassures them that the relationship can still work. There’s a certain feeling that the relationship is fragile after a fight and the intimacy of very passionate sex goes a far way in rebuilding confidence in the relationship.
So why is the sex so good? When two people quarrel, they get excited. That excitement can easily translate into a state of arousal, and consequently, mind-blowing sex.
Always keep in mind that sex is not the solution, but a means to an end — not the end itself. And don’t start fighting just for the make-up sex.
So go tell your woman that you have a bone to pick with her, and then put it inside her!